A Child's View-Creating a Memory Book or Journal

Hi Kids,

When someone you love dies, it feels like there are a million questions and not a lot of answers. The adults in your life are all there to offer support and listen to your questions, but sometimes they don't have a clear answer. And no, you are not crazy for asking the questions. They are an important part of your journey through grief.

Some questions you may have:

Why did this happen?

Will someone else I love die too?

Will I die?

Will mommy/daddy ever stop being sad?

Where is my loved one now?

Can I still play and have fun?

Was the death my fault?

Will the hurting ever stop?

Remember that healing from your loss is a long journey. As you walk along the path you may find answers that comfort you. In time, your pain will become a little softer and easier to cope with. Some kids (and even adults) find that creating a memory book or a journal can help you to explore difficult questions, find ways to say goodbye and to recall important memories to hold close to you forever.

• Write a goodbye letter, telling your loved one how much they mean to you and describing your life since they've been gone.
• Draw a picture of what you're feeling.
• Write a poem.
• Take pictures of places and things that remind you of your special person.
• Create a page to describe the loving people who remain in your life to support you.
• Write in your journal about how you felt following the loss of your loved one, add entries every few days or weeks.